Confidence

Confidence.

“Confidence doesn’t come from belief, it comes from evidence.”

Dr. Laura

I used to think that confidence came from believing in yourself, and unfortunately I didn’t always rise to the occasion. 

However, Dr. Laura pointed out the other day that believing in yourself wasn’t really what confidence was about. Rather it was about all the times you accomplished things through talent or hard work. It was the multiple times you failed, but tried again. 

Through these experiences you were building a resume of evidence proving your competence. This evidence allowed you to feel confident in your abilities. 

How do you build that confidence?  I see it every day with my young grandson as he has been taught and enabled to do things around his home that help him build the evidence he needs to prove his competence. Watching him spray off the front porch of his home with great aplomb despite his young age, made me realize that my son-in-law and daughter were wise beyond their years giving him the opportunity to do so.

The next time you find yourself doubting that you can do something start looking for evidence to prove yourself wrong.